I'm Not Superwoman
As a child, teenager, college student, young adult, or in even my grown woman era, I never knew Women’s History Month existed.
Now, mind you Women’s History Month is in March. As of today, it is now MAY, and therefore, I ask that you not judge me.
Although this blog was originally intended to be a post to begin or end Women’s History Month, it didn’t quite make the cut.
Life happened per usual, and time just got away from me.
However, I don’t particularly need a month to shed light on this topic, Women’s History Month was just a timely moment for this post.
But as they say in entertainment world, the show must go on. I refuse to scrap the idea of the blog just because I missed the initial moment.
In today’s world, we have the full capability to create our own moments, so that’s what I’m going to do.
Now, back to the topic at hand, I’m Not Superwoman.
There are so many songs that celebrate the strong, independent, super woman mentality. It’s crafted our perspectives of womanhood for DECADES.
I’m here to change that narrative and introduce a different perspective. One that’s truly my own but you may find it relatable too.
You may remember Chaka Khan’s song, “I’m Everyone Woman”. The lyrics say, “I’m everyone woman, it’s all in me. Anything you want done, baby”.
If you aren’t familiar with Chaka’s version, I’m sure you remember Whitney’s, but Chaka did it first guys.
Alicia Keys has a song called “Superwoman” and it says, “Cause, I am superwoman, yes, I am. Still when I’m a mess, still put on a vest, with an S on my chest, oh yes, I’m superwoman.”
Destiny’s Child has the infamous, “Independent Woman” which has a line that says, “I depend on me if I want it”.
Each and every one of these songs glorify being the ever so popular strong, independent woman or what have you.
But the more I grow up, the more I become aware and realize that I am NOT superwoman and I have no desire to continue to be this strong, independent woman.
It was honestly never my desire, but life happened, and I found myself not really having a choice.
Now, as you read this, I want you to know that I am NOT bashing nor dismissing that the only choice we sometimes have is to be strong, independent, and self-sufficient.
What I do want to bring to light is that it’s okay to take off the cape when being strong is NO LONGER your only choice.
You see, this idea of being the strong, independent, and self-sufficient super woman, is built and kept up by society with our co-sign.
In that space, we lack the ability to let others in, especially other women. Ultimately, we lack community amongst women.
The thought of being it all and doing it all is because our mothers or grandmothers or great grandmothers furthered the trauma of struggle.
Growing up, many of us only saw that STRONG, INDEPENDENT, SELF-SUFFICENT WOMAN.
At a certain point, being superwoman become a means to glorify struggle.
And let me be the first and surely not the last to tell you, THAT’S NOT WHAT WE WANT.
As we grow and further ourselves into this thing called adulthood, we become more established, and we create better lives for ourselves and our families.
We create a front row seat and a first-class ticket to changing the generational narrative.
As women, we must do and be better about supporting one another.
We control the “superwoman” narrative.
Therefore, please hear me when I say this, there is ENOUGH OPPORTUNITY in this world to trust that we can share the wealth, not do it all, and build community amongst one another.
We’ve worked so hard to create better lives for ourselves so how much sense does it make not to benefit from the lives we’ve created?
I do not have multiple sources of income merely for kicks and giggles.
It is because I desire to build generational wealth AND to pay people to do the things I do not want to and do not have time for.
There’s literally a service for all the things we need in today’s society.
So why forfeit the personal time and family time to do something someone else is fully capable of?
Whether that’s in the household or your job, GET SOMEBODY ELSE TO DO IT.
You’re worth more than the daily struggles that can literally go away with a payment or delegation or just asking for help.
Trust me, I know it’s hard.
But after my last few weeks, I’ve learned now more than ever that I’m only one person and I CANNOT do it all.
It’s okay to let people help. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to let people in.
I’ve said “I need help” more in 31 days than I ever have in 33 years of life and honestly, it felt good.
It took some adjusting, but it felt good.
It felt amazing to take off my cape and allow people to support me in the ways I’ve always supported them.
What are you robbing yourself of because you refuse to ask for help or because you refuse to delegate or because you just “have” to do it all?
How would your quality-of-life change if you stopped doing it all?
What would happen if you began to take care of yourself, FIRST?
Even if STRONG and INDEPENDENT is your current season, you’re nothing to no one if you’re depleted.
So, my charge to you today, is to take off that cape, remove that superwoman hat, and enjoy the one life that you have.
There are truly some things that can wait for you to rest, recharge, and refuel.
Until Next Time, #KeyInspires