Hey Lover, Hey Lover
When I got up this morning, “hey lover, hey lover, this is more than a crush”, was ringing in my head. Now, out of all the songs in the world, I could not understand why this one was so randomly in my spirit.
Yes, I said in my spirit. Hahaha
But then God quickly reminded me that Valentine’s Day is right around the corner.
In that reminder, I decided no better time than the present to approach the day many single people dread.
Valentine’s Day, much like any holiday, seems to be an ever-present reminder of the love you do OR don’t have.
The issue here is that people have LIMITED THAT LOVE to another person, a significant other, and a situational circumstance, also known as a, situationship.
Furthermore, because of that, we dread what’s been tokened as the DAY OF LOVE.
But that doesn’t have to be the case, and here’s why:
Much like anything in your life, you have the power and authority to declare what something or someone means to you. This includes Valentine’s Day. Now, I am not saying pretend as if this day has no significance to you. What I am saying is to CONFRONT what you feel, CHANGE how you view it, and move on.
Who said Valentine’s Day had to be a day of you receiving love from another person and not giving love to yourself? When was the last time you actually practiced a little self-love? What was the last action you completed for yourself, by yourself, just because YOU wanted to?
Who hurt you? Who may have helped cause you to dread this day? Identify your TRIGGERS and HEAL beloved! It happened; nothing can change that. Forgive, and once again, work the steps NECESSARY to move on. Stop ROBBING yourself of the present by continuing to live in the past.
Why is it anyone else’s responsibility to LOVE you when you have yet to prove that you LOVE yourself? It starts at HOME first. Are you taking care of your body? Are you taking care of your soul? Do you affirm yourself? Have you allowed God to love you?
Are you whole? Refer back to points 3 and 4, it’s very difficult to receive what could be, when your HEART is STILL GRIEVING what was. Seeking love from a person when you are not yet whole can cause so many problems. Self-sabotage is REAL, and it is extremely dangerous to your well-being!
Last but not least and ultimately the MOST IMPORTANT, have you opened your heart to allow God to love you? Often times we reject God because we expect for Him to treat us like man, but HE WON’T. He’s nothing like the disappointments we’ve experienced through various circumstances in life. So, my question to you is this, have you allowed God to love you? Do you TRULY know love without FIRST receiving His? It’s just something to think about.
Hey lover, I know you desire the fairytale happy ending story of life, WE ALL DO. I must admit, I am a bit of a “hopeless romantic” myself, but as we are only a couple of days away from Valentine’s Day, DO NOT THROW YOURSELF A PITY PARTY.
Remember, you are where you are for a REASON. Focus more on the WHY and enjoy your single season.
The life of a wife and mother or husband and father changes how your time is allocated DRAMATICALLY.
What do you need to take care of NOW before your significant other comes along?
Write the Book. Start the Business. Cancel the Debt. Seek the Promotion. Travel More.
Simply put, do what makes YOU happy while you have the time and attention to truly focus on JUST YOU!
Everything else will come, IN ITS SEASON.